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by zombigirl (zombigirl)
at November 28th, 2006 (12:30 pm)

current mood: annoyed

I'd like to know....
After we've all moved, and started our new lives with significant others, spouses, etc....

What do you say to well-meaning family members who constantly ask you "When are you moving back??"

I've started a new life two years ago with my American husband, and we've just had our first child. Now it seems my family feels it's their RIGHT to have me closer to them, since there's a child involved and all...I've tried saying politely "No, we're happy where we are..." and it always comes up next conversation online or over the phone....

Do you get these same guilt-trips? How do you handle them?


Posted by: Mary (sillygoosegirl)
Posted at: November 28th, 2006 08:14 pm (UTC)

How frustrating that they are trying to butt in on this decision! We tell my husband's family that they can move to live near us if they want. We tell my family that we are looking forward to moving to be near them, but it doesn't make sense for us yet. It's kind of frustrating sometimes, but I really don't feel guilty about where we have chosen to live, so they haven't really affected me with any attempted guilt-trips. It's our life, our family, and our decision.

Posted by: Heather Leola (luckygal813)
Posted at: November 29th, 2006 03:13 am (UTC)

I don't, I haven't moved yet but although I haven't they have to see taht you are your own person and now that you are here with your husband it's you two not them and you two just you two. They need to see that and if they love you, they will suport you for what you decide not what they do.

Hope it works out!

Posted by: Kate (katexas)
Posted at: January 14th, 2007 05:32 pm (UTC)

My parents would love for me to move back to Texas, but they know my life is here now. He's Canadian, his whole family lives here, his job is here and now mine is too; it would be very difficult to pick up and start over. He doesn't even like the heat. I don't know if telling them "maybe someday, but not anytime soon" is misleading. I'm positive it will be harder to be away from my family if/when we have kids, but at least we have some family around.

I was really thrown yesterday when his sister in law asked me if I'd been "home" since I came here (I consider where I am now to be my home) and how long I was planning on staying. All I could think to tell her was that my work permit is for two years and I hope to have permanent residency by the time it expires. Inside I'm screaming HELLO--I'VE MOVED HERE!

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