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by Mary (sillygoosegirl)
at September 21st, 2006 (09:28 am)

Names & Ages: Mary and Joshua, 24 and 25
Relationship: Do we still count as newlyweds? We were married on the last Saturday of Spring, 2005.
Current Location: Chicago
Locations Before the Move: California. Me: LA, Him: Bay Area. Originally, however, I am from Oregon, and he is from Georgia.
When did you move?: Summer 2004
Why did you move?: We moved to Chicago to be together, but both of us needed to move somewhere for our own reasons, due to me graduating college and him starting grad school. His first choice had been to go to grad school in Georgia (not actually because it was where he was from--he liked the program), while I wanted to return to Oregon or at least stay on the west coast. I would have considered spending a few years in Georgia while he went to school, but unfortunately the grad school he wanted to go to was in this little tiny town where I wouldn't have been able to get a job in my field... and as a new college graduate, I didn't feel like I could afford spend my first few years out not working in my field. At some point in my life, I will probably be willing (even happy) to give up my career for my husband, but it's not going to be until he is established in his, and I'm old fashioned enough that I wasn't willing to consider it until we were actually married.
Plans to move again?: Next summer? To Portland or Seattle? Maybe? I'm homesick and want to return the the Pacific Northwest. He doesn't want to start over on the making friends things, or leave behind the college friends we have here... However, most of our college friends are here for grad school and will only be here a few more years at most anyhow.
Biggest adjustment since making the move?: We've had difficulty meeting people here. The people I know at work seem to go to bars to socialize, and the same goes for the people he knows at school. We're not interested in the bar thing, and that seems to really get in the way of forming friendships. Fortunately we have a few friends in the city whom we went to college with, but it's a lot of the same people week in and week out.
What do you hope to get out of this community?: Conversation with others who have dealt with this. I expect we will also have some coming angst involving moving this summer.
Please share a picture! This is us on our hiking trip to Starved Rock State Park on Labor Day this year. We stopped in at the fancy hotel and just had to have our picture taken in this cute booth in the lobby.

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Posted by: Kelly (crazykellysexy)
Posted at: September 21st, 2006 05:35 pm (UTC)

You guys seem like fun stopping on your hike for a fancy picture. We're with you on not going to bars... It does make it harder to go out!

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