Hey I haven't posted in a long time but here's the update on me. Dave and I are Engaged! He took me to Niagara Falls and proposed during the grand finale of the fire works that they have. In about a year I am moving because our wedding date is October 10,2008. I will be moving to Manassas Virgina. Away from everyone and everything I ever know to be with the love of my life. I'm excited but terrified at the same time. the thought of leaving everyone brings tears to my eyes.. That's it for now. I have work but just saying the update now .
I'd like to know....After we've all moved, and started our new lives with significant others, spouses, etc....What do you say to well-meaning family members who constantly ask you "When are you moving back??"I've started a new life two years ago with my American husband, and we've just had our first child. Now it seems my family feels it's their RIGHT to have me closer to them, since there's a child involved and all...I've tried saying politely "No, we're happy where we are..." and it always comes up next conversation online or over the phone....Do you get these same guilt-trips? How do you handle them?
Names & Ages: Courtney (23) and Eric (25)Relationship: dating for almost a yearCurrent Location: Norfolk, VALocations Before the Move: Eric is from TX but was stationed in MD and I'm from northern VA but was going to college in Boston, MAWhen did you move?: June 1st, 2006Why did you move?: Eric is in the military. He was stationed in MD but had to move to Norfolk, VA. I followed him down there about a month later from northern VirginiaPlans to move again?: Its really unknown right now.. He could have to leave VA in two years or four years, or maybe less. Most likely he has to go overseas next. :/Biggest adjustment since making the move?: Not being near my family, trying to get a job, making friends! Its so hard.What do you hope to get out of this community?: To learn how others cope with moving to unfamiliar places.Please share a picture!
I hope that this is okay!I made an add me community for people who have loved ones in the military. Feel free to join!
Names & Ages: Tam and Alex, 20 and 23Relationship: girlfriend and boyfriend, partners, lovers, whatever.Current Location: Santa Barbara, California.Locations Before the Move: i was in Dallas, Texas, and he lived about 10 minutes away from where we are now.When did you move?: July 18th, 2006Why did you move?: i had to look at the other answers to shape mine, because i read this question and said to myself, "umm, duh, to be with him!" but now i see...why did i specifically move and not him? Alex is in his last quarter at UCSB, and after that will be officially graduated. i graduated from community college in May, and i was still living with my parents, working a job that sucked. i obviously wouldn't have school in the fall, i wouldn't get anywhere with my current job, and i needed to leave the nest eventually. so i moved. plus, Texas sucks.Plans to move again?: after UCSB, Alex is wondering about whether or not he wants to go to grad school. he'll be taking a year off, and i imagine we'll stay here for most of it, so he can decide where he wants to go to grad school, and we'll move then. he wants to go to Colorado, and i would be so great with that(cuz i secretly want to get married there so that our families won't fight about who has to travel more ;D)Biggest adjustment since making the move?: my diet and being more active. while i was still in school, i had gym access, and i bought some of the healthy frozen dinners for lunch. i continued this after i graduated, but as moving day got closer and closer, my diet and exercise levels went down. i quit my job about two weeks before i moved, and i then spent a week in San Antonio before i moved, and all of that really sunk my diet ship. so now i'm trying to get back on track by buying healthy things and avoiding cheese(i LOVE cheese). Alex and i also have bikes, which we ride frequently, to work and movies and such, and we both have profiles on my Eye Toy: Kinetic.so yeah, all of that, other than adjusting to doing my own laundry and buying groceries and paying rent. but it hasn't been so bad.What do you hope to get out of this community?: something more active than loversreunited XDPlease share a picture! i'm too lazy to put a picture in this entry, so you're free to look through the couple pictures i have of us, and the tons i have of the apartment.http://pics.livejournal.com/jesterneko/
Names Mackenzie&Jeff Ages: 18&25Relationship: Together for two almost two years now. Be exactly two on Oct. 3rd.Current Location: Reading, PALocations Before the Move: East Dubuque, IL and Reading, PA.When did you move?: I moved to Reading in June this summer.Why did you move?: To go to school and be with Jeff.Plans to move again?: None yet.Biggest adjustment since making the move?: Trying to get everything ready for school. And just getting used to life here.What do you hope to get out of this community?: Just to talk to people who need help and everything.Please share a picture!
Names & Ages: Mary and Joshua, 24 and 25Relationship: Do we still count as newlyweds? We were married on the last Saturday of Spring, 2005.Current Location: ChicagoLocations Before the Move: California. Me: LA, Him: Bay Area. Originally, however, I am from Oregon, and he is from Georgia.When did you move?: Summer 2004Why did you move?: We moved to Chicago to be together, but both of us needed to move somewhere for our own reasons, due to me graduating college and him starting grad school. His first choice had been to go to grad school in Georgia (not actually because it was where he was from--he liked the program), while I wanted to return to Oregon or at least stay on the west coast. I would have considered spending a few years in Georgia while he went to school, but unfortunately the grad school he wanted to go to was in this little tiny town where I wouldn't have been able to get a job in my field... and as a new college graduate, I didn't feel like I could afford spend my first few years out not working in my field. At some point in my life, I will probably be willing (even happy) to give up my career for my husband, but it's not going to be until he is established in his, and I'm old fashioned enough that I wasn't willing to consider it until we were actually married. Plans to move again?: Next summer? To Portland or Seattle? Maybe? I'm homesick and want to return the the Pacific Northwest. He doesn't want to start over on the making friends things, or leave behind the college friends we have here... However, most of our college friends are here for grad school and will only be here a few more years at most anyhow.Biggest adjustment since making the move?: We've had difficulty meeting people here. The people I know at work seem to go to bars to socialize, and the same goes for the people he knows at school. We're not interested in the bar thing, and that seems to really get in the way of forming friendships. Fortunately we have a few friends in the city whom we went to college with, but it's a lot of the same people week in and week out.What do you hope to get out of this community?: Conversation with others who have dealt with this. I expect we will also have some coming angst involving moving this summer. Please share a picture! This is us on our hiking trip to Starved Rock State Park on Labor Day this year. We stopped in at the fancy hotel and just had to have our picture taken in this cute booth in the lobby. Wedding photos
With the beginning of our community, I thought a good topic would be the beginnings of our relationships.How did you and your hunny meet?Post your answer as your own entry, if you want.Don't hesitate to post your own topics, this is just a starter...
Names & Ages: Kelly 20 & Tao 26Relationship: Married as of 09.08.04Current Location: Bloemfontein, South AfricaLocations Before the Move: He is from South Africa but we are currently living in Maryland, USAWhen did you move?: Within the next three weeksWhy did you move?: He had trouble with immigration, so we are going to start our lives in South Africa and then maybe come back here down the roadPlans to move again?: We will move to Midrand, South Africa (which is near Johannesburg) after we've been in Bloem for a few months. Biggest adjustment since making the move?: I'll tell you in a month or so!What do you hope to get out of this community?: I am hoping to find people who understand what it's like to trade everything familiar to be with who fell in love with. I always said I would never move for a guy, isn't that ironic? I hope we can share happy stories, but also gripe and ask for tips when we need them!Please share a picture!( Read more...Collapse )